Tips to effectively handle crying children when going to preschool that parents should know so as not to harm their childrens emotions!

I cried when I went to kindergarten - I cried hoarsely, my parents were impatient!

The first week of kindergarten is an "obsession" for many children when they have to leave their parents' arms, away from their families to integrate into the community.

How can parents handle each time they send their children to school crying in school? How can I say goodbye when I say goodbye to my children and try to hold on to my parents?

I am a preschool teacher specializing in the tearful separation of young children at school and I can assure you that, in most cases, the time your child cries will be directly proportional to the time you spend on linger. I know it can be difficult for parents to let their kids cry, but if the breakup is done right, your child will get over it quickly.

So how do you do it right? Here are a few ways you should and shouldn't do when breaking up with your kids at school!

DON'T GO: sneak out of the room while your child is concentrating on playing!

By doing this, the first benefit parents have is the easy way to avoid crying and screaming at you when you leave, and you comfort yourself, they will get used to it. But you never know this is a very bad way, because it does not help the problem at the next moment, and for the following sessions, on the contrary, you create a feeling of fear for your child, When you are playing, suddenly lose your father, or lose your mother. Children cry out of fear of being abandoned, and when they look up from their parents, their fear is doubled.

Do: Say goodbye and tell your child that you have to go but you love and miss them so much!

Give your child a hug, kiss or break up anything, and say goodbye, say love words to them.

 

How to let children go to school without crying

MOTHER DON'T SHOULD BE FEARED OR sad

The way children assess the safety of a situation is by reading their parents' faces. If you look like you are scared or about to cry, that will not indicate that the situation is safe and will amplify your child's anxiety.

Do: Smile and tell your child that I know you will be happy at school

Let your child see on your face that she will be safe at school and have nothing to worry about, put that belief on her face with a smile. This can take some time at first, especially if it's your first child and away from your parents for the first time.

I know how worried and miserable my parents were. In my school, parents need more tissues than children for the first week. You already know that parenting is not easy and these are difficult times when you need to be strong for your children. Show them your biggest and most confident smile when you leave, then you can cry. Many schools will even have a room for this particular purpose.

DO NOT - Show indifference to your child's tears.

It is important that children know that you care, you understand when they are sad, scared, worried. Absolutely not scold their children when they cry or act frustrated or embarrassed when they watch their children happily when they go to school. Doing so will only add a parental sense of disappointment to the ongoing emotional anguish.

Should: reassure me

Remind your child that you know they are going to have a good day at school, even though they are upset right now.

Remind your child that you or who will pick them up the afternoon of school.

If you want, you can create a plan for an activity that will be done together after school with your child. This will give your child a reminder of your return, and give the teacher information to help the teacher reassure the child, and help her overcome feelings of abandonment.

 

I cry when going to preschool

Here's a sample of the dialogue and specific expressions you can use for your child:

Mom / Dad: Ken, it's time to start class. Parents love Ken very much!

I cried and cried ...

Mom / Dad: Hold me on your lap, kiss me, stroke my back and tell me I know, please go to school happily. Today your child will have many fun games at school with their kids. I will go to work, in the afternoon I will pick you up, and we will go to the park!

I still cry and cling to my mother's neck ... and can say (if she can talk): I am not going to school; mom don't go; I want to stay with you; I'm so scared….

Mom / Dad: So this afternoon, do you want to go to the slide in the park or do we ride the park bike? Or in the afternoon, we will go to the slide and go see the fish swimming!

Maybe you will turn your attention to your parents' questions and answer, maybe you still cry, but you have received the information, you will be more secure about staying here.

Time to say goodbye: Until now, Dad / Mom has gone to work, now bye, honey. Parents will miss and love you so much. Mom / Dad will pick you up in the afternoon.

And left… ..

It's hard to get rid of when your baby is crying, but if you do it right, I believe and can guarantee that your child will quickly see it, accept it, and get over it.

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