10 years as a bride to celebrate Tet with her mother-in-law - To whom does this heartbreak?

Having eaten Tet as a bride for 10 years, why are you still not familiar?

My parents-in-law have 4 children, 3 boys and a girl. At first I knew my husband, I thought, probably not living with my parents because there are many brothers and my husband is the youngest in the family. But the brothers all escaped far away, so the grandparents stayed with the youngest. Up to now, it's been 10 years that I live together. Parents have no income, so there is no reason for them to live separately.

After a year as a bride , I was not used to living in my husband's house, insisted on living separately, he did not agree, just said that my parents were old, no one took care of me, he was close at home, unable to live. private. Such is filial piety. I think, living alone is still filial. Saying that, my husband decided that, so I did not think about living alone anymore.

My parents-in-law are traditional farmers, still keeping the old way of life. Something kind of unsatisfactory will not say, just gossip behind her back. It is said that "far from love, close to normal" is not wrong. I don't say it, but I know that the youngest daughter-in-law's parents don't like the youngest daughter-in-law. However, the small friction in my family did not pay much attention, in part, the work was too busy, in addition I also thought, well, the grandparents are old, not living with me forever but persistent.

The story only makes me a headache every New Year to come. Every family gets together and happily in Tet holiday, I just worry about snoring for these reasons:

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When making a new year, I am afraid of eating Tet, I miss my mother's house

Normally, I work so busy all day, weekends are a bit more free so I have to take my children to school. There is not much time to think about the countryside. But Tet is different. When I was not married, every New Year's Eve, I always prepare offerings with my mother. In the early morning, I dream of going out to the house to burn incense and do a good luck ceremony. The feeling of eagerly waiting for New Year's Eve with my mother still remembers even though I'm the mother of two kids now. From young to old, every year, it has become a habit according to her mother to go to Mass.

I still remember that time when women gathered to watch their parents pack banh chung, dad did not pack well, but the youngest brother always praised. My father unfortunately passed away early, my woman has already married, only the mother and youngest brother are at home. It's almost Tet, the feeling of both remembering and loving me makes me tear up. Maybe it's because the Tet atmosphere makes me like that, or maybe I can take a long vacation or think about it. When Tet comes to my husband's house, New Year's Eve just knows how to miss my mother, but I can't go home. Having been a bride of the family for 10 years, it is the same every year. When I see Tet, my heart always comes, I miss home very much.

Eating Tet when making a bride is afraid of buying Tet

With my parents-in-law, it is natural for me to take care of the Tet purchases , worship, offerings, and food for the whole new year. I'm a picky eater, with every wish that I can't eat and still live. But when Tet comes, there's no chicken, beef, no rolls, no pickles, all kinds of onions, everything in the world, full of 2 refrigerators is still not out of food. Cha is the parents-in-law who is the eldest. The ancestors' death commemoration should be worried about now because they live together, so we only care ". So, the items brought back to my hands.

By default, parents-in-law, living together, children are obliged to take care from A- Z. What is missing for onions, garlic bulbs, mushrooms, wood ear fungus, they are not happy to show up. I think, what a lot of food needs. Supermarket is open until 30th New Year, and Hai has reopened. After two days, I can eat a lot and I can buy it to get tired. Every year, we have to throw away the food but the elderly are not sorry. Every New Year, both husband and wife run out of money because of shopping. On the altar, there are still vacancies that are considered as Tet is not equal to people's houses, it is to lose face with relatives, villages, ...

Eating Tet when making a bride is most afraid of being a "guest" who stays for a long time

Referring to Tet is to mention reunion. The woman living far away eagerly pulled back to wish her parents New Year. I naturally became a reluctant host. Having the largest room gives way to my uncle's house, the second one is my second one. We moved our clothes and things to the smallest room. Well, the money is the owner. Whenever my siblings come back, I make you have to be attentive. But the most fear is the grandchildren. Every time they come home, it's like a storm swept through. Scraps of paper were thrown all over the room, tin cans, snacks around the room. I can't remind them well, because my parents said they weren't even scared, what was the point of saying that they were not afraid.

Just a mess. The girls like to destroy things. Every time when I come back, I don't break the door latch, the broken glass will also break the other. Thinking of that bored. After giving feedback, the grandparents just said that they only love them to play. Once or twice a year, why do we have to accept it. I still pity to suffer but know how to do it.

Tet when making a bride is most afraid of cleaning

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There are no strawberries that are not afraid of cleaning up Tet's day. I am afraid that the 10 years have not ended yet. The first is to move the house, to clean the door a few days before Tet. I work every year until the end of the 28th Tet before I have a break. That's just over with the agency rushing to clean. Three-storey house, only cleaning the floor is tired, people have no windows, any stairs, ...

Finished cleaning the house is considered as New Year's Eve. The most frustrating thing is, we eat together and live together, but we only have to eat. When Tet comes, I stay at my parents-in-law's house. There is no meal with less than 20 people. Everyone was happy to eat and drink, but with their own mouth they laughed, but their mind only thought of the numerous waiting dishes. One day can still stand it, but for a few days of Tet, every day is the same, it is so tired moms.

When making a Tet holiday, when being scared of a bride, especially going to celebrate Tet

Tet is tired, going out to Tet is even more tired. My husband's house is in the suburbs of Hanoi, and has a reputation in the capital, but the village culture is still very strong. Mùng Mot is to wish Tet on all paternal and maternal sides with her husband, the second day to visit them a little further, the third day is a little further. In general, we have family names with the whole village. Wherever we go, we meet relatives.

A few hundred meters away is to stop by to wish Tet a few houses. Leaving anyone's house, the Tet will be blamed enough for the road. Going to the preliminary Tet greeting takes 2 days, even more tiring than going to hard labor. The most fear is that everyone has to eat at home. Not eating is considered disrespectful to the owner. I have difficulty eating, my stomach is poor. Having Tet with me is like fighting, having breakfast without dinner has come, eating but more miserable than going to work.

Because of the fear of Tet, many years have been warm with Tet. We stayed together with our parents-in-law for the whole year, our grandparents did not say anything. Every time we came home, we had enough to drag our husband and wife to speak badly. Now, the grandparents live together to make their son sinister. Then they did not care anything about their parents, ... etc and clouds ... All year you came back to give parents some gifts, grandparents considered treasures.

I take care of how many family expenses every day, I can't see anyone mention it. Then, my aunt and uncle spoke from afar, so it's not like you and your wife are like that, you have to do it, you have to be like that ... Fortunately, my husband understands the story, so even though I'm frustrated, I still try to be happy and warm. home.

There are only a few days left until Tet, is there anyone in the same mood as me?

The Asianparent

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