I thought I was a great parent until the kids started getting older and I had problems I didn't know how to deal with. As they get older, the more kids like to do the opposite of what I say. After that, I learned subconscious teaching methods and started to apply them in everyday life.
I want to share with parents who are confused on the parenting journey the basics of subconscious parenting methods. Especially what you need to prepare to start this new journey
Is the subconscious teaching method effective?
What is subconscious teaching?
Human behavior does not necessarily represent their nature. Her grandparents also had a saying "near the ink, it is black, near the lamp is bright". When your kids are behaving badly to you, it's not that you have failed to educate them and the kids are completely spoiled. They are simply reacting to your own attitude. They reflect your behavior, unconsciously.
Understanding that, you will change your behavior. Instead of scolding your child "don't yell at me" (while you are yelling at your child yourself), you can switch to "why did he yell at me like that".
According to many scientific studies, the subconscious is a "repository" containing all the data and information about people from the time of the fetus formation to the present time. We are completely unaware of this information and data.
The meaning of the word "Hidden" is "hidden". For example, say someone has hidden talent, that is, that talent has not been revealed. This talent cannot be seen, heard or felt with the senses. Thus, the subconscious mind is the part of the mind that contains information that we are not aware of.
Thus, the subconscious is much stronger than consciousness. That's why in many situations we totally KNOW (consciously) something is wrong, but something INSIDE (subconscious) drives us to act.
Why should subconsciously raise children?
So is your child. In the vast majority of cases, they have enough information to know what to do. But they don't. The reason is because that KNOW lies only in consciousness. And the subconscious is not ready.
If you want your child to be at his best, don't subconsciously parenting methods. The roots produce fruit. If you want to have juicy fruits, you need to focus on taking care of the roots.
The same goes for raising children. If you want to influence your child's life to reap delicious fruit, the part that needs to take care of most is the subconscious roots. Once you know how to talk to your child's subconscious, learn how to help them unleash the magical power of their subconscious , young children can lead a life full of happiness, health and success.
What do parents need to start the subconscious parenting journey?
For your child to change, you need to change first
The mistake of parents is to want to change their children, but not to change themselves. Every change has to start with you. To have a positive mindset, yourself must change your mindset. Think more positively, trust yourself, and the methods you choose. Changes in your actions and thoughts will affect your child's attitudes and sense of desire to change.
"Look at the tree repairing the soil - looking at you fixing yourself"
"Parents have a natural child." However, that is not entirely true. How your children behave is the result of how you treat them. Recognizing the responsibility of children, we first need to change our thinking and behavior. Parents should become friends with their children first. Gradually they will learn to accept responsibility and become good more palatable.
Is a shining example for me to follow
Children are very good at imitating. They often follow the way adults talk and behave. Seeing, hearing how children will reproduce like that completely unconsciously. Therefore, you need to behave consistently in all situations to be a good role model for your child.
You can't keep your kids tidy at home, but when you go out on the street you litter them indiscriminately. What the children see will be ingrained in their subconscious. Every action you perform has more power than a thousand words you say.
Flexibility in parenting methods
Parents often force their children to follow this principle and that pattern to control. The purpose is for the child to "not perish". However, there is no perfect formula or pattern in parenting. “Perfect parenting” requires parents to have a flexible mindset to find the best way to help their children grow.
No failures, only feedback
When using an ineffective educational method, don't be discouraged. Don't blame me either. Think of it as valuable feedback and keep changing until you reach results. After each failure, ask yourself, "What lessons did I learn to be more successful next time?". From there, you should adjust your behavior to get the best effect.
Understand that our children have their own worldview
The way children see life is very different from adults. The mistake is that most parents think that their children are as aware of the world as they are. Therefore, you usually communicate with them from your frame of reference. Leading to the phenomenon of "he says chickens and ducks", you and your children cannot find a common voice.
Connection is of utmost importance
You must cultivate a bonding relationship with your child. Listen to and respect your children. Only when your baby feels connected to you, feels able to trust you and is safe with you, will he or she be ready to listen and welcome you.
At the core of the idea of subconscious teaching is that adults change their behavior, speech, and way of thinking. Every day children see, hear, recognize and learn unconsciously. Good habits will imprint on the subconscious mind. They become the roots, the foundation from which your child develops and grows.
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