Behind the door of a single moms house - A lot of worries but also full of love

Behind the doors of the house of single mothers are sometimes white nights. Let's learn the stories of single mothers with boundless love.

Behind the door of a single mothers house

“The vast majority of women do not want to raise children alone, no matter how strong, intelligent, and resourceful they are. Raising a child alone will have to be with such a psychological burden that sometimes I want to be exhausted ... ”- That is the affirmation of M, a modern single mother. M is currently a representative of a foreign hospital with an office in Vietnam. With a beautiful  appearance, graceful intelligence , M always attracts everyone's attention.

37 years old, spent nearly 4 years as a single mother raising a naughty, intelligent son M. seems used to unexpected and dramatic situations. She no longer hesitated to introduce herself as a single mother. M. frankly said, at present, the mother and daughter have stabilized their life in a modern, fully furnished apartment. His son M is attending an international school and is very brave when he communicates with strangers.

The worries and worries of a single mother

Over a cup of coffee while waiting for her son to learn the piano, M thoughtfully talked about four years of being a single mother. The thing that makes M most burdened and worried about is that he must assume the role of the father in the responsibility of teaching children. “The thing that worries me the most is that boys are currently developing a personality. When there are only two mothers and children in the house, I wonder why my father does not come, who is the grandmother ... At that time, I try to find a way to answer so that he accepts the situation without getting hurt. At night, hugging my children, I felt cramps in my heart, tears pouring down… Certainly no woman wants to raise her child alone, but for many reasons, they have to force themselves to endure ...

However, it was a night story, behind the door after the apartment door was closed. Outside, to the society, even in the eyes of many fully married friends, M is still a modern woman with a desirable life. M affirms, she has no intention of raising children alone but always wants to have a perfect family. However, after a few matchmaking times, M has yet to find a suitable husband, who can love her mother and daughter.

In many cases, whether or not you want to or not, reluctantly become a single mother

Another situation, VH divorced when his son was 2 years old . Looking at H's cheerful and dynamic demeanor, few people know that she has been a single mother for nearly 2 years. She shared about the difficulties when raising children alone during the past time.

“One night he had an allergy, his whole body had a rash and had difficulty breathing. I still remember forever feeling alone in the night, when in panic taking my child to the hospital. Although you know, any single mother must go through these situations, but only in reality will find it difficult. " Currently, culture has moved to Ho Chi Minh City to work, she is satisfied with her new life, new relationship and is also looking for a new stop. However, she also affirmed, it must be a man who loves his child.

"For a man who expressed his hesitation from the beginning when he had a child, he immediately deceived him, because trying with that person also leads to not good results ..." - H confided.

Despite many worries, but also full of love

The life of a single mother is always full of worries but also full of love.

In fact, in the face of social changes, the story of a single mother is now not too strange to everyone and is accepted, as long as the woman is capable of raising children. However, there is an undeniable fact, single women who raise children, regardless of all walks of life, are under great pressure to bear the responsibilities of both parents alone. - Self-financed economic and have to fulfill all responsibilities in the family, raise children.

In this regard, a psychological consultant said that being a mother is a legitimate desire and aspiration of a woman. Some women, perhaps due to objective circumstances, or because they do not want to be tied down by a husband and wife relationship, choose to be a single mother who deserves respect and sharing. However, what a single mother needs to consider apart from financial matters is the spiritual life and happiness of her child throughout childhood.

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