Many parents still have the mentality to force their children to study a lot, in order to achieve the best results, not inferior to their friends. This can lead to very negative consequences.
Tragedy of forcing children to learn
Parents force their children to study too much
The heartbreaking incident happened to a Chinese girl named Xiao Linh (8 years old).
When Tieu Linh was still alive, her parents signed up for Tieu Linh to take part in many extra classes. Babies have almost no time to rest and often have to do homework until midnight before going to bed.
One day, after returning home from school, Tieu Linh feels tired. She wanted to rest but was afraid that her parents would rebuke the crime of being lazy, so she wrote on a piece of paper: “Mom, I'm so tired. Please sleep for a while ".
Seeing that the light in the child's room was still on, the mother checked it. The image of the child lying on the sleeping table, placed next to it is a piece of paper. The mother shakes her son to get up to sleep, but calls upon the little girl still does not answer. Realizing that something bad happened to her baby, the mother trembled to call her father to take her to the hospital.
Tieu Linh was so tired that she died due to her fatigue. Her parents cried bitterly at the pain so great, and blamed themselves for putting pressure on their child's work.
Tieu Linh is a child who understands the story, she never blames her parents for forcing her to study too much. Due to busy work, Tieu Linh's parents also spend less time studying and taking care of their children's health. When they found out, Tieu Linh was forever gone at an age when she was too young.
Consequences of forcing children to study too hard
Carelessness and letting go
When the pressure is at a point the teen can no longer bear, he or she will tend to let go and show carelessness. At this point, all the pressure from parents seems to be useless.
Reduced vision, increased eye diseases
Nearsightedness is the disease that most children suffer from. Nowadays, the age of children who have to wear glasses is decreasing. In addition to nearsightedness, farsightedness and astigmatism are two of the common eye diseases. Children are forced to learn too much and do not have time to rest their eyes will make their eyes weaker and weaker ...
Reduced resistance
The children called "nerds" have a common feature that because they are engrossed in learning, they forget about eating, resting, physical activity ... This will lead to exhaustion due to lack of quality, fatigue. If left for a long time, the child's resistance and immune system will be impaired, weakening the body and susceptible to disease.
Suffering from spinal diseases
Improper sitting posture will lead to spinal diseases such as scoliosis, curvature of the spine ... In such a long time, children will suffer from spinal degeneration, disc dehydration, spine spines, spine spines. adulthood.
Suffering from nerve diseases
According to psychologists, when the brain has to work continuously without rest, it will lead to mental confusion. This is the main cause of neuropathy. This disease is most common during the exam season, transferring from high school to university.
Parents should only encourage their children to develop their qualities
Psychologists also give advice to parents. That is: Do not force children to do things that are not true to their age mentality. Do not force children to learn to become scientists, doctors or engineers as parents wish. But help children access knowledge the way they like. If we see a 3 or 4 year old child who has read the newspaper or did many difficult calculations, please do not assume that it is a prodigy. Simply because they are capable and interested in those things, they focus and do.
In order for the child to develop qualities, it is important to provide opportunities for them to work with things they care about or are good at. Children also need access to new things for them to experience.
For children who are gifted with thinking and problem solving, give them the opportunity to do so. For a child who likes to read, parents should pay attention to choosing appropriate books for each age group. Applying smart metrics tests is one of the ways that parents can help determine in what areas a child is gifted.
Therefore, instead of forcing their children to learn and excel, parents should pay more attention to their child's wishes, focus on promoting the skills they want and possess. Parents should only give advice, not interfere with the child's future choices. Only turning yourself into a companion to your children, parents can really help their children's growth.
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